Ask Yourself….

How Do I Feel About Myself?


“I am deeply lonely… I feel empty inside.” “I can’t be alone.” “I’m passive, drifting; I can’t even make ‘simple’ decisions.” “I’m angry.” “I’m hard-hearted and detached.” “My life is driven by a deep sense of shame.” “I’m struggling in my relationship with God.” “I desire to experience the peace that is supposed to pass all understanding.” “I would like to learn to seek others out rather than choose to isolate.” I would like to learn to relate to God as a loving Father.” “I would like to live out of the truth of who God says I am, rather than what I may believe about myself.” “What does it really mean to ‘love others as I love myself?’”

How Are My Relationships with Others?


“I fear relating honestly to others.” “I’m co-dependent… I live my life through others.” “I refuse to connect emotionally with others.” “I just can’t keep appropriate boundaries.” “I find it hard to be known and live behind a mask.” “I’m the victim of abusive relationships.” “I feel anger or hatred towards women or men.” “I have a fear of commitment.” “I want to connect with others from a place of relational health.” “I want to learn to say, ‘No.’” “Authenticity is a deep desire of mine, but it seems beyond my reach.” “I would like to learn to initiate relationships with others from a place a strength, rather than weakness.” “I want to find relational wholeness in my relationship with God so that I have something to offer others.”

How Are My Sexual Relationships?


“I act promiscuously.” “I use pornography.” “I can’t keep my own sexual boundaries with others.” “I’m a victim of abusive relationships.” “I read erotic literature and novels.” “I use or engage in prostitution.” “I have self-identified, unwanted, same sex attraction (unwanted homosexual or lesbian feelings).” “I’m married to or in a relationship with someone dealing with these sexual issues.” “I long to experience sexual intimacy as God intended.” “How can I learn to love again after having trust broken?” “I want to forgive my loved one.”

Our Vision

To become a voice of hope and a place of restoration for those in sexual and relational conflict throughout every community within Central Pennsylvania.

    • We are a nonprofit counseling organization that provides Christ-centered education and support to individuals and families who struggle with or are impacted by sexual brokenness.
    • We are an interdenominational ministry which offers counseling and support services to those overcoming sexual conflicts such as sexual compulsivity, sexual addiction, sexual abuse, and sexual identity issues, such as homosexuality.
    • We strive to be a help to those who struggle with sexual conflicts, to help them to manage their sexuality to the glory of God through abstinence or through developing the ability to enter into and maintain an intimate, lifelong, monogamous, heterosexual marriage.
    • We believe our purpose is to be a model of the practical experience of the grace of God to and within the Christian community.

How You Can Help

Day Seven depends on the generosity of like-minded churches, businesses and donors to bring hope and restoration to individuals and families walking through sexual and relational difficulties. Your donation via the button below will help low and no-income clients receive the Christ-centered counseling, education, and support they need.

Our Team

Bill Malay

M.A., C.S.D.

Prior to beginning his current position as Executive Director with Day Seven Ministries, Bill spent 22 years in pastoral ministry in California, Kentucky and New York. He graduated from Houghton College followed by Asbury Theological Seminary and later earned his spiritual direction credential from the Epiphany Institute in Pittsburgh. His current responsibilities at Day Seven include building relationships with pastors and community agencies, providing seminars for churches and community groups, and leadership and administrative responsibilities. He has a passion for helping others live up to their full calling and potential and loves to see people’s inner inspiration become real and concrete. Bill and his wife, Maria, have four children. Bill does not see clients individually at this time.

Zach Reichert


Zach grew up about an hour from Lancaster and like many others his age, was unsure what direction to go after high school. Although he didn’t have a strong pull to a particular field of study, he felt that Lancaster Bible college was a good fit to continue his education. Through various experiences and opportunities, he felt that the counseling field was where he needed to be and serve. Zach interned with Day Seven for three years and finished graduate school in 2012, when he officially came on staff as a counselor. His passion for helping and hearing others has led him to enjoy what he does, in speaking truth and showing grace through individual counseling and recovery groups. Zach sees clients at both the Lancaster and Reading locations.

Michael Courtney

L.P.C, M.S.

Michael began his second stint serving Day Seven Ministries as a counselor in January, 2012. He holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Secondary Education from the University of Arkansas and a Masters of Science in Clinical Psychology from Millersville University. He is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors, the American Counseling Association, and the Pennsylvania Psychology Association. He, his wife, and their two sons attend Cross Roads Brethren in Christ Church in Mount Joy, Pennsylvania. He enjoys reading, playing basketball with his sons, and hiking the Rocky Mountains. He is passionate about helping people to resolve painful pasts, relational difficulties, emotional dysfunction, and addictive ruts. Michael sees clients at both the Lancaster and Camp Hill locations.

Craig Hickey


Craig works part-time for Day Seven Ministries as an intake counselor and in various other roles as the opportunity arises. He is the author of a memoir, “A Walk with God to Remember,” about his first wife who died of leukemia. A graduate of Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, he has worked in campus ministry with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship, in church ministry with an Evangelical Free congregation, in recovery ministry with Water Street Ministries, and in chaplain ministry with Willow Valley Communities. He is married to Diane and has two daughters adopted from China. Craig does intakes at the Lancaster location.

Nicolas Wilbur


Nick received his Master of Arts in Counseling from Biblical Theological Seminary. He has a Bachelors Degree from Union University where he received his BS in Business Administration. After being in the business world for six years, he decided to make a change. He worked for an at-risk youth camp where he helped families work through trauma and restore their broken relationships. During this time, he developed his passion for helping others restore relationships. This is when Nick felt called to go into counseling. Nick is married and enjoys spending time with his wife and friends. He likes spending time outdoors, but also like watching movies on his surround sound. Nick sees clients at the Camp Hill location.

Rebecca King

M.S.W., L.S.W.

Rebecca is a Licensed Social Worker who received a Bachelors degree in Psychology from Dallas Baptist University and a Masters in Social Work from Millersville University. She is a Lancaster county native and lives with her husband and two daughters in the Manheim area. As a life-long resident, she is interested in addressing the strengths and growth opportunities inherent to Lancaster county culture within the therapeutic process. Rebecca is passionate about promoting the integration of spiritual and emotional health, believing that one is not complete without the other. This focus translates into many areas including individual wellness, sexual health, relational and marital health, and a variety of mental health issues. She enthusiastically supports the mission of Day Seven in promoting heart wellness first, as it is “the wellspring of life”. Rebecca sees clients at the Lancaster location.

Wendy King

B.A., M.A.

Wendy first joined Day Seven as a counseling intern through Lancaster Bible College. Prior to attending college, Wendy completed a YWAM DTS where God laid counseling on her heart, specifically for those dealing with sexual brokenness. Knowing education would be necessary, she graduated with her Masters in Professional Counseling from Lancaster Bible College in 2014 and continued on with Day Seven. She enjoys walking with others through their hurts and struggles as well as watching them experience victory in big and small ways through individual therapy and groups. She and her husband attend Petra Church in New Holland. Wendy sees clients at both the Lancaster and Reading locations.

Casey Raudenbush

B.A., M.A.

Casey is a recent graduate of Lancaster Bible College, having graduated with a MA in Marriage and Family Counseling. Prior to this, she received her undergraduate degree from Lycoming College, studying religion and psychology. She began interning with Day Seven in May 2014. In addition to her work at Day Seven, Casey also has experience working with individuals with substance addictions and eating disorders. She also spent 3 years working with children on the autism spectrum. Casey is passionate about being able to walk with individuals, couples, and families on the road to restoration, utilizing a counseling model that both honors Biblical truth and psychological insight. Casey sees clients at both the Lancaster and Camp Hill locations.

Danielle Broadhecker

B.A., M.A.

Danielle Brodhecker earned a BA in Sociology at Virginia Wesleyan College. She is working on her Masters in Mental Health Counseling at Lancaster Bible College. Danielle has wanted to help others from a young age. Prior to beginning her education at LBC, she became impassioned to help restore trafficking victims. This lead her to want to intern at Day Seven Ministries where she has the opportunity to help abuse victims. Also, in helping those who are impacted by sex addiction, Danielle hopes she can impact the demand for trafficking victims. Danielle sees clients at the Lancaster location.

Gary L. Lord


Gary is an experienced Licensed Clinical Psychologist passionate about helping people improve their lives. He works with those struggling with sexual and intimacy problems, anxiety, depression, PTSD, and with the elderly in successful aging. He does stress management, anger management, and works with abuse victims. He is an active member of Lancaster Evangelical Free Church. His focus in counseling is, and has been for 30 years, relationships and problems with intimacy and anything that prevents individuals and couples from achieving healthy, effective, faithful, and fulfilling lives. In addition to his clinical work, Gary has done executive coaching and consulting with businesses and organizations, and he has taught and done research at universities and colleges. He has also taught and served in various leadership positions in the church. Gary and his wife, Temmy, live in Leola. Their two married children live in Seattle, Gary’s home state. Gary sees clients at the Lancaster and Reading locations.

Sarah Runk


Sarah began counseling at Day Seven as an intern beginning in the fall of 2014. Sarah was born and raised in Illinois, but moved to PA to pursue a Masters of Arts and Religion at Evangelical Seminary in Myerstown, Pa. After meeting her husband Brandon, she has found a home in Pennsylvania and currently lives in Harrisburg. Prior to counseling at Day Seven, Sarah has experience working with women experiencing crisis in various settings and currently works as a D & A counselor in addition to Day Seven. Through personal experience and training, Sarah values counseling by integrating Biblical foundations and trauma-based approaches. Sarah has a passion for working with women and to see lives and families restored from sexual brokenness through the power of Jesus Christ. Sarah sees clients at the Camp Hill location.. Sarah sees clients at the Camp Hill location.

Renee Maloy


Renee is a mother to a daughter and son-in-law and grandmother to two grandchildren. Renee’s undergraduate degrees in chemistry and biology equipped her with a pre-med background, and later she completed her first Masters Degree in Business Management (MBA). In her career as an emergency manager, she learned she was able to diffuse various crisis situations. She translated these skills of conflict resolution into her passion to assist people who are in crisis both psychologically and emotionally. She started her counseling career ten years ago when she established a non-profit organization that focused on the reduction of stressors in the lives of adults and youth. Renee then completed a Masters Degree in Marketplace Chaplaincy with a concentration in Christian Counseling. She also has additional graduate hours in Professional Psychology, and has completed three units in Clinical Pastoral Education. Renee uses an eclectic style—a Rogerian style of listening combined with Reality and Cognitive Behavioral therapeutic approaches. Other therapies are sometimes incorporated as needed for a person’s healing journey. A second passion she is pursuing is the establishment of transitional housing and counseling for women coming out of human trafficking. Renee sees clients at the Camp Hill location.




Day Seven Ministries offers professional, confidential, Christian counseling to individuals, couples, adolescents, and families affected by sexual and relational brokenness issues. Each counselor at Day Seven Ministries is a committed Christian who is equipped to integrate the Christian faith with psychotherapy techniques. We approach counseling from a solid Biblical perspective, because we believe that ultimate healing and true freedom comes through an active, growing relationship with Jesus Christ, and that this relationship affects change in all areas of life.
Although each counselor has a slightly different approach to the counseling process, our idea or theory can be described as:

  • Biblically based and Christ-centered
  • Cognitive-behavioral
  • Family Systems
  • Modified 12-step emphasis and integration recovery model approach

Our professional Christian counselors will address any issue related to sexuality, including sexual addiction, pornography, sexual abuse, unwanted same-sex attraction, gender confusion, emotionally dependent relationships, promiscuous sexual relationships, marital unfaithfulness and various other sexual relationships. We also provide counseling for individuals who have a sexually addicted spouse and family members who have a loved one who struggles with a sexual issue.
We counsel men, women, couples, families, and adolescents over age 14.

Recovery Groups

We believe that healing is facilitated through honesty within the context of safe relationships.
Recovery Groups at Day Seven Ministries offer a place where people can talk about their struggles,
find support, receive accountability, and be placed in contact with resources to information
that will aid them in their recovery.
Day Seven Ministries groups meet weekly and are often led by men and women who were once participants. Each group is slightly different; however, all groups focus on healing from
sexual brokenness issues. Listed below are the types of groups offered:

  • Men’s Recovery – for men who struggle with sexual addiction, unwanted same-sex attraction or other sexual and relational issues.
  • Women’s Recovery – for women who struggle with sexual addiction, unwanted same-sex attraction or other sexual and relational issues.
  • Wives’ Recovery – for women whose spouses struggle with sexual brokenness issues.

Day Seven Ministries’ recovery groups operate on a quarterly basis and require an individual commitment
to that time frame. However, new participants are welcome at any time. An intake appointment is
necessary for group participation. This appointment allows us to match a new participant to
the appropriate group, discuss group guidelines and confidentiality, and protect the
safety of all group members.

Groups are currently available in Camp Hill, Harrisburg, Lancaster, and Mountville.

For more information or to schedule an Intake in preparation for participating in a Recovery Group,
call the Day Seven Ministries office at (717) 735-0690 or toll-free at (866) 301-3297.

Seminars & Workshops


Day Seven Ministries staff and counselors are available for a variety of speaking engagements that can be customized to your organization’s specific needs. Seminars and workshops cover
a variety of topics relating to sexual brokenness and healing. In the past, we have presented
seminars or workshops for churches, women’s and men’s Bible studies, youth groups, pregnancy
centers, group homes, camps, colleges, and nonprofit organizations.
Conference and Workshop Topics include but are not limited to:

“What is Day Seven all About and Why Do We Exist?”
This is a general talk in which the reality of sexual brokenness is shared along with Day Seven Ministries’
vision to be a voice of hope and a place of restoration for those in sexual and relational conflict
throughout each and every community within Central PA.

“Can’t We All Just Get Along?”
If we are all supposed to be Christians, why is there conflict within the body? What does it mean to truly
live together in community, not just skip out when the going gets rough? This workshop will explore
what the Bible says about how to handle conflict with our brothers and sisters in Christ
and what it teaches us about ourselves.

Sexual Issues

“Ministering Redemptively With Hope to People Who Struggle With Same Sex Attraction.”
In our culture, people struggling with SSA are often presented with two options: learn to embrace the
attraction or learn to live with condemnation. But, there is another way. The church is to be the
hands and feet of Jesus ministering to people in their brokenness. Through the church, the
hope of Christ and His redemptive power may be extended to those who feel hopeless and
powerless over their attraction.


Pornography has become a distructive force in our society today. It affects children, families, relationships, even jobs. How do we deal with it? Why is the law into my personal business? What are the boundaries? These are just a few questions we will address.

“Honest Talks About Sex”
This series of interactive workshops is designed to help people talk openly about sex and sexuality
and its place in today’s culture. These workshops cover a variety of topics including a biblical
overview of sexuality, perspectives on gender and sexuality, cultural messages about sex,
and why God created sex. It also addresses issues such as homosexuality,
exual addiction, and masturbation.

“What Does The Bible Say About That?”
The Bible has a lot to say about sexuality, homosexuality, gender, and God’s design for us. This
workshop explores those truths and discusses them in the context of today’s culture and
the messages being’ portrayed through the media.

“Addiction Recovery”

Sexual Addiction can be an unacceptable topic to accept and discuss. It is no different than other addiction such as alcohol, food or excessive spending to name just a few. Becoming aware of the addiction is the first step. Then acceptance and accountability for the addiction. Other topics covered in the seminar are:

1.  How does one become addicted?
2.  How the brain is wired?
3.  How do I cope with the addiction?
4.  Why is it difficult to break the addiction?

“Co-morbidity Disorders Associated with Sexual Addiction”

There are disorders that compound the addiction making it difficult for a person to cope and take charge of their life. We will discuss the disorders, awareness and impacts from the disorders, and coping skills.

“Emotionally Dependent Relationships and Same Sex Attraction in Women”
Women thrive on relationships, but what happens when those relationships go awry? This workshop
addresses the roots and causes of emotionally dependent relationships and same-sex attraction.
It also discusses differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to guard
friendships from becoming unhealthy.

Dating & Marriage

“God, Sex and Love”
Encourage your congregation to explore God’s special design for men and women at this unique 4-week seminar series.
This shared journey will provide greater clarity on what God says about sex and love, why God cares about sex, how the cultural definition of love differs from God’s, and what the purposes of sex, love and marriage are.


“A Father’s Impact on His Son’s Masculinity”
When observing a young boy imitating the way
his dad walks or talks, it quickly becomes evident that fathers leave a powerful imprint on their sons.
This talk examines a child’s perception of his father and how this perception impacts who he desires
to be one day. In addition to this, we will examine what it means to be in the image of daddy and
why a son wants to be like him more than anything else.

“Parenting in a Porn-is-the-Norm Culture”
What is a parent to do when pornographic images are everywhere? The purpose of this seminar is to share
the reality of the culture they are parenting their children in as well as to present ideas as to
how parents can engage their children in conversations that will help them to navigate this
cultural minefield without resorting to a bunker mentality.

Relationships & Identity

“Boundaries in Relationships”
Learn how, when, and why it is sometimes necessary to set boundaries in relationships. Discover
what a boundary is and how it can be used to guard and protect yourself and the relationships
that are important in your life.

“The Anatomy of a Healthy Relationship”
Learn the key ingredients for a healthy relationship, including:

  • Intentionality and commitment
  • Setting and respecting boundaries
  • Building safety, trust, and intimacy
  • Conflict resolution
  • Freedom to dream

What is it? Who designs it? Why do you need it? How do you get it?
A definition and discussion on the basics of accountability relationships, God’s plan for us in
accountability relationships, and the process of putting accountability as a practical
discipline into our lives will all be presented in this workshop.

“What Am I Worth?”
Exploring How and Where We Gain Our Value

Many times we try to find our value and worth in all of the wrong places instead of looking to
our Creator. Learn what it means to be known in Christ and find our significance in Him.


Day Seven charges a modest honorarium fee for our Speaker’s Bureau to come to your place of ministry and deliver a seminar. Weekend conferences, Sunday preaching and Sunday School modules of all the above seminars are also available. To schedule a speaking engagement or for more information, call the Day Seven Ministries
office at (717) 735-0690.


Presently Celibate

Wednesday, January 27th, 2016, 1:29

On a secular college in the new era of sexual freedom of the 70s, as I wrestled with

loneliness and an intense desire for marriage, the Lord worked to change my attitudes.

I particularly remember one night. I was studying through an Inter-Varsity guide called Grow

Your Christian Life. In a chapter entitled “Fellowship with God in Prayer,” it referenced Song of

Solomon 2:8-14 and 5:2-6, 16; two sections containing the words of two lovers longing for each


I remembered previous teaching on the Song of Solomon, but now the study guide pressed

me deeper into it than before. As the verses described the beauty of spring, the singing birds, and

the wonderful fragrance in the air, I immediately thought of romance. Obviously, in 5:2-6, the

speaker was thinking likewise. She spoke of her heart beating with the anticipation of the

appearance of her man and then sinking with the disappointment of his absence. The sensual

description of her in the bedroom made me uncomfortable. “I had put off my garment, how could

I put it on?” she says. Yet the beauty of the scene was captivating, especially her beloved calling

out as he woos her.

Then the guide equated the waiting lover with us as believers, and the seeking beloved with

the Lord. He is longing for us and seeking us, while our heart beats in anticipation. Could the

Lord think of me that way? Could he long for me like that? Does my heart beat for him? How

can I put together the raw sensuousness of these verses with the love of the Lord?

In my imagination, I sailed off to my favorite fantasy of love. I pictured the beach with the

sun rising over the ocean; my love and I are walking, holding hands with the breeze blowing

through our hair. Could the Lord fit in here? Then, instead of a girl, I pictured the Lord walking

next to me. And it fit! The Lord does desire intimacy with me! He desires to be with me, not just

to fix my problems, not to just save me from sin, but he desires to have fellowship with me. What

I really yearn for in a woman is not sexuality but intimacy, and the Lord can be intimate in a way

that no person can. He alone knows me better than anyone else.

That study brought forth in me a sense of God’s presence that I had not experienced before. I

sensed him not just in momentous things that happened as I had in the past, but also in the

everyday activities. As I walked to class, I conversed with him as if he were right alongside of

me. For a week, I delighted in that sense of his being wherever I was. The pressures of studies

soon squeezed it out after that, but I knew what I was hungering for, and every once in a while I

would experience it again.

The flip side of my deepening relationship with the Lord was less of a desire for women. I

had not dated for a year partly due to time constraints, but I felt very content to be without

someone, now that the Lord was filling that place. I told friends I had decided to be presently


Later studies in Grow Your Christian Life confirmed that desire. In a study on singleness, it

said, “If we refuse to find ultimate satisfaction in Jesus Christ outside marriage, we will not find

it apart from Him within that relationship. God is still the goal of our existence, and marriage

cannot fill the void that he alone will occupy.”

That message marked me for those days, and yet is one to hold onto now as the era of sexual

freedom as matured and come of age.

(Taken from A Walk with God to Remember, by D. Craig Hickey p. 138-140)

Can a gay person become a Christian and still be gay?

Friday, January 15th, 2016, 12:56

Passing along a video that several of our clients and counselors have found thought-provoking:

Sex Addiction and Children

Thursday, October 15th, 2015, 12:23

There is no doubt sex addiction affects addicts and their spouses, but there can also be a devastating effect on the child or children of the addict. Children of all ages are impacted by the addiction. Many times children suspect what the addicted parent is doing. As a result of suspecting or even knowing the parent’s secret some children act out because they do not know how else to express what they suspect or know. In addition, children act out when they are lied to by their parents. If only one of the children knows what is going on they may isolate from their siblings so that they do not accidently tell them what is going on with their parents. This could put a lot of undue pressure on the child. There is also the potential for the power to be indistinct between the family members (Corley & Schneider, 2003). For children who suspect or know there can be the struggle to focus and concentrate on tasks as they think on the secret instead (Schneider, 2000).
Children experience mixed emotions when they learn about a parent’s sex addiction. Some experience shock or disbelief that the parent has been engaging in sexual activities outside of the marriage (Corley & Schneider, 2003). Along with the shock some children actually block what they have been told as a form of denial. Many children after the initial shock has worn off begin to feel other emotions like fear, sadness and anger. They are angry at the addict for hurting the other parent and for hurting them (Corley & Schneider, 2003). Children fear what the future holds. They wonder if their parents will stay together and if they do not stay together what will happen to them. The children who suspected something was going on feel validated. There are children who take on the comforter role trying to cheer everyone up and make people feel better. Similarly there are children who act as encouragers and offer positive feedback to the parent with the addiction for getting help (Corley & Schneider, 2003).
Some children begin to look at porn themselves, which for a number of children opens them up to their own addiction (Schneider, 2000; Wong, 2014). Depending how sex was presented by the family and more specifically someone with a sex addiction the children could develop altered views on sex and the opposite sex, especially those who become addicts themselves (Hunn, et al., 2012; Wong, 2014). For the child or children who stumble upon their parent’s porn they could be intrigued and begin to watch porn themselves. If they watch porn on a consistent basis there is a significant possibility that their brain functioning will be altered and their view of actual sex and how the opposite sex should be treated (Wong, 2014; Young, 2008). It is quite sad to think how much the relationship between the spouse and the addict is impacted, but even more upsetting is the effect sex addiction and the addict’s behavior has on the children. It is extremely sad to think that for some children impacted that they too become addicted to sexual acting out.
Disclosing to Children
When a child or children are told of a parent’s sexual acting out they have a lot of mixed emotions as well. Some children experience shock or disbelief that the parent has been engaging in sexual activities outside of the marriage (Corley & Schneider, 2003). Along with the shock some children actually block what they have been told perhaps as a denial. Many children after the initial shock has worn off begin to feel other emotions like fear, sadness and anger. They are angry at the addict for hurting the other parent and for hurting them. Some children participate in behaviors when they found out about the addiction (Corley & Schneider, 2003). Children fear what the future holds. They wonder if their parents will stay together and if they do not stay together what will happen to them. The children who suspected something was going on felt validated. There are children who act like the comforter trying to cheer everyone up and make people feel better. Similarly there are children who act as encouragers and offer positive feedback to the parent with the addiction for getting help (Corley & Schneider, 2003). Children have many different responses to disclosure. This could be based upon how and when the information was shared with the children.
Addicts who were interviewed that had disclosed to their children stated that they felt other addicts should tell their children and family (Corley & Schneider, 2003). While addicts recommend disclosing the key questions are when and what to disclose. Some addicts suggested disclosing based on the age of the child. Along with that was what to disclose to children before someone else discloses the information. Sometimes the addicts and spouses have to share about the addiction with their children because the addicts involved criminal behavior and would be reported in the news (Corley & Schneider, 2003). It has been suggested that information should be shared with the children to confirm what they may have already wondered about, to hopefully put a stop the generational addiction cycle, and for safety reasons. As part of the safety parents should talk to children about sex and what appropriate touching is so that they do not become victims themselves (Corley & Schneider, 2003). It is also recommended that parents disclose the information early, but only after the parents have been able to plan what to say. For both spouses to be ready to disclose to children they must be able to be calm, positive, and feel strong. In addition, it needs to be after the spouse have moved beyond the shock and the couple can discuss what the future holds (Corley & Schneider, 2003).
A key component of disclosure to children is knowing what to disclose as there is some information the child or children do not want to know and there is information they deeply want to know. Children do not what to know the nitty gritty of the addicts behaviors (Corley & Schneider, 2003). The parents should avoid giving the too many details about the addict’s sexual acting out behaviors. Also, children do not want to know about the spouse’s anger towards the addict. Finally, they do not want to know about their parents’ sexual relationship and sexual activities (Corley & Schneider, 2003). What children do want to know corresponds with their age. For the youngest children they want to know if someone is leaving or is dying because they have likely witnessed the parents arguing. They also want to know if they have done something wrong. Parents should tell the children that they are loved because this is something they are curious about. The children in elementary school want to know if they are the cause of the fighting. Also, they want to know if an awful thing like divorce is going to happen. This age group is also trying to figure out why the addict is behaving different now that they are in recovery (Corley & Schneider, 2003). The children ages 9 to 13 begin to make the disclosure about them and they are curious about if they are normal, if they will become an addict and what happens to me if the parents separate or divorce (Corley & Schneider, 2003). The last group of children is the teens and young adults. This group begins to question the addict about how they could hurt the spouse and the family. They are looking at how does my parent’s behaviors impact me (Corley & Schneider, 2003). What is key to disclosure is that it needs to happen, needs to be age appropriate, and needs to be about the children and not the parents.

Danielle Brodhecker, MA

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    At our Camp Hill location, Day Seven partners with Grace Like a River. Grace Like a River is a counseling and healing ministry of Shawn Geraty and friends whose passion and desire is to see people’s hearts transformed and minds renewed in the presence of Christ and the Father’s healing love. Their specialty is integrating healing approaches with professional Christian counseling that lead to transformation and wholeness in people’s lives. Grace Like a River offers counseling services to individuals, couples, families, and groups. They also offer seminars for churches that focus on personal growth and healing, as well as, training seminars for those seeking to facilitate healing in counseling and church settings. For more info, visit

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